'Oh well's' vs. 'What ifs?'

This week I read a really good tweet that reflects my new outlook on life. The title sort of gives it away but the full tweet was "I would rather live a life of "oh well's" than a life of "what if's." It was by a singer who supported the loves of my life aka. Hanson in their last tour of the UK. (follow her here) 

A few major things have happened this year with people close to me that have genuinely changed my life. It's so cliché to say 'life is too short' and I think it takes something huge for you to really realise this fact for yourself. I was talking to a friend about this recently whose colleague passed away. She said everyone around her wondered why God would end his life so early, but then she offered another perspective. She said, sometimes these things happen to change the lives of those around such tragedies. I agree with this, wholeheartedly. Sometimes I get so frustrated, as you can see with my previous posts relating to fear and insecurity, but I have come to conclude that it takes an event to effect you personally before this revelation really hits home. 

One thing I've been thinking about is how we compare our lives with each other. Why do we do this? Everybody is born with a different path, and different opportunities, some people are born without any. Wouldn't our energy be better used if we spent our time focussing on what we have and learn to be thankful for that? I watched a show yesterday about Utah (no surprise) and they interviewed a real life cowboy (which I enjoyed) who stated that he really was living his dream, and that everyday he woke up feeling thankful for what he has, because he knew that not everybody would get the chance to say that. I loved that. 

But what does it take to live our 'dream life'? It takes risk, it takes confidence and it takes an 'Oh well' attitude, over a 'What if I'd have....'. What if I went for that job, even though I don't think I'll get it? What if I book some time away and miss something? What if I make this decision and it's not the right one? Say you apply for a job and don't get it, Oh well. What you book a hotel and it's a dump when you get there, Oh well. What if things don't turn out how you'd hoped and you have to try something else, Oh well. 

Does everything in life go the way we think it will? NO! Instead of living a life of regrets, why don't you just do whatever it is you want to do? SO WHAT if things go a bit wrong or if you get a bit of rejection - you pick yourself up and try something new. We can't be afraid of mistakes anymore, life is too short. We never know what might be around the corner, and we can't know, for me that is the beauty of it! Sometimes I think we just need to stop thinking and evaluating and just go for it. Life is one big adventure, with all its ups and downs.

I will tell you now, if today were to be my last - I would die without regretting a thing. I truly mean that. I would also go with a smile on my face, knowing that I had learnt to live without fear. I encourage you to do the same...stop worrying, take a risk and pee into the wind.

Much Love xxx